Are You Happy?

This is pretty important, so I would listen up.

I’d say I take things to the extreme most of the time. I have an idea and I run with it, real hard. I don’t look back, I don’t look around me, I just GO.

Yes, there are benefits to this… I get things done efficiently and I get things done, period. However, over time I have slowly come to learn that there are many drawbacks to this, especially in how it has related to my fitness goals.

Sure, its awesome to have a goal in anything. I’m talking more about goals in fitness here like prepping for a competition, hitting X body fat, gaining X amount of muscle, getting to X weight etc… , but in my experience, you have to find the fine balance between having goals while still having other things to focus on AND being okay with not having a goal at a certain point in time.

First lets discuss having a goal while still having other things to focus on…

Let’s look at two scenarios:

1.You have a goal (getting to X body fat for example). You have a schedule and a routine that’s working and you do it religiously. You only keep your head focused on the goal- you don’t care if that means having to miss out on things that will deter you from your schedule or throw you off in anyway. You may try and rationalize that its ‘worth it’, but is it really? Once you get to your goal are you like…

“Yeah! So glad I missed out on all those social events, so glad I cancelled appointments/events to hit the gym because I hit my goal quicker!”

You may think this for like… a week… and then you are probably going to start thinking “so, what now?”. You did it, woo! But, now you are kind of lonely, you went MIA for a while and you’re not really sure what to do. You get this feeling that you need to now search for something else, search for another goal, or something to grab onto since you lost contact/opportunities to meet new people/friends who you could grab onto for support.


2. You have a goal (getting to X body fat for example). You have a schedule and a routine that’s working for you and you do it religiously. You keep your head focused on your goal, BUT you also know that there are other things in life that are healthy for you that you focus on too. So, if that means you have to estimate macros one day because you went to a dinner party, then that’s okay… if that means you have to miss a few workouts, then that’s okay. You still get to your goal– maybe a few months later, or a few weeks later, or maybe not even later at all! And once you get to your goal, you haven’t been MIA, you haven’t missed out and you don’t feel the need to search for something else to grab onto because you have that support system-you have that outlet already. Things feel more balanced.

Which scenario sounds better to you?

Secondly, I just want to stress that it’s okay not to have a fitness goal! You don’t need to be constantly searching for a new goal once you’ve completed one. You did a show, great! Now, just maintain- live life- workout, stay fit, feel great and be happy. You got to X weight- awesome! Now, if you feel good- just keep it that way! When you feel ready to take on a new goal, go for it. Having that time to just maintain and live is refreshing. It prepares you better for when you are ready to take on a new goal.

Ah, I didn’t want this to be a long post, but I really wanted to stress these points as they are things I have learned in my experience. As I said earlier, I used to only keep my head forward and I always had to have a goal. These two things combined left me feeling isolated and alone. While it felt good to accomplish so many things so quickly, I wish I had balanced it more.

You can still get things done- you can still accomplish your goals, but in the long run, you need to be happy the whole way through. You need to be happy forever, period.

Don’t push away things that will make you happy in the long run, just to accomplish a goal in the short run.

Oh, and if you’re reading this post and thinking, “Maybe Carrie couldn’t find the balance, but I can”, then, I don’t blame you. I used to think the same, but well… here I am writing this post!Screen Shot 2013 06 21 at 11.29.34 AM 150x150 Are You Happy?

Hi! I'm Carrie. I'm a student, online trainer and personal trainer, but enough of the boring stuff. I have an absolute passion for fitness, but it hasn't always been that way. I struggled with body image and tried my fair share of fad diets and short term fitness trends. The fitness world is confusing, overwhelming and down right silly at times. I am here to help girls focus on the important stuff and learn how to get a lean and toned body without endless hours of cardio and low calorie diets. Don't be shy and say "hi!" to me! I'm usually sweet, unless you steal a scoop of my protein powder ;)

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